If you're planning to move into an apartment with a new roommate there are a couple of things you might want to discuss with your new living partner before you move in.
Make sure you've chosen the right roommate:
Finding a living companion that has similar interests and likes as you isn't always necessary, you don't even have to become friends with this person. If you become too picky about finding someone that will hopefully be your new best friend you might miss out on a roommate who is super busy and may never be home!
Sometimes it's better if the person you live with is not like you at all because that can get very distracting - if you are spending too much time being friends and socializing with your new roommate both yours and their goals may get put on hold and be pushed back. Not to mention, they might not feel the same way and could have their own friends that they spend their time with.
Establish some rules:
You would be doing yourself and your new roommate a great disservice if you just assumed that you were both on the same page as far as conflict resolution and rules. Before you move in with one another you should sit down and discuss how you would like to handle some of the following topics:
- Visitors: Are you comfortable having your friends or significant others in the home? What about allowing them to stay overnight? If you don't like the idea of people spending the night what time do you feel they should be gone by? Would you like to know if people are coming over beforehand, or is it okay that they just arrive?
- Temperature: do you both prefer a warmer room? Or a temperature a little bit cooler? Are you both fans of saving on energy? Or do you both prefer very different temperatures? Rather then continuously having to change the thermostat it might be a good idea to agree on something prior to moving in.
- Chores: You cannot assume that the other person will do those small tasks that you really don't enjoy doing. Tasks will star to pile up and you could start resenting your roommate and the living situation you will be in. You can try creating a chore list, and then figure out a schedule that works for both of you. Do you alternate days for the small tasks, or weeks for the larger tasks? Try to remember to include everything you can think of and make sure to split it up equally to everyone is doing the same amount of the work.
- Expenses: A good plan is to find out all of the bills that will occur each month and what will need to be split between the two of you. Try to include the items that you both use as well such as: toilet paper, garbage bags, and cleaning supplies. Once you have an idea of how much all of that is going to be, try to split the expenses evenly and fairly.
- Food: Are you planning to go halfsies on the groceries? Or purchase your own? Sometimes it's easier to split the food and purchase your own, especially if you'll be rooming with someone who has different dietary choices than you do.
- Specific: Make sure you are both on the same page about having pets, or smoking in the house, or how it will work if you both have to be up and sharing a washroom in the morning. Make sure you are clear with one another if music is going to be bothersome late at night, or having people over too late. Be aware of one another work schedules and ultimately be courteous to one another.
Don't feel bad or awkward being the one to bring all of these things up, it is better to know how one another feels right off the bat, and it can make living together much smoother and even enjoyable.
Ultimately you just need to keep communication open and know that you will be able to bring up any concerns before they become more of an issue than they need to.